Privacy and Respect

My friend France posted this and I asked permission to repost this because this needs to get out.

Privacy is defined by as the state of being free from intrusion or disturbance in one’s private life or affairs: the right to privacy while Respect is defined as to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with: to respect a person’s privacy.Those are two very basic words but heavy with meaning.

I just can’t help but be disappointed with the way they acted. Let me share this story that just recently happened. A disclaimer though: the things that are put here are my own account and experience. This is more a ranting session.

Just this weekend our community held a crossroads retreat in one of the retreat places in Tagaytay. It so happened that a show in ABS-CBN, particularly The Correspondents, asked permission from us that if they can cover our event as part of their report. Our admin person mentioned this to our elder, and automatically our elder said no because it’s a private activity. So the production team left. They came back the second time and again asked since they are there and that the other group in the retreat facility allowed them to take their group, they asked if they could do the same to us. Again, the answer is no and that our elder mentioned that “When we said no, you should respect our decision and our privacy. I hope you understand.” Into which they said they do understand. So we thought it was the end of it.

But on my way to the Ladies’ room, the staff from the Retreat House and Bernadette Sembrano came over and asked if they wanted to talk to the elder. Right there and then I told her no, you cannot simply take videos. Hear me out, Sembrano says. Okay, I told her. She mentioned that the other group are elederly people and that she wanted to take the video of the community since we are young professionals and that we also attend retreats during Lent not just going to the beach. I told her that even if that’s the reason, we would still not allow it simply because it is a private activity and that even if you talk to our elder, she will still give you the same answer. Even on our own terms. I told her even if we have terms, it’s still a no. She said okay, and then they left. I communicated it immediately to our elder.

But we got the surprise of our lives when Sembrano is very insistent on talking our elder. She approached her and told her the same account. My elder told her that it’s a no and you have to understand that. Then she became arrogant, saying, you’re a catholic community and yet your staff are very edgy (read: mataray daw ako). Our elder said, yes, my people are edgy simply because you don’t respect our decision. They ended still not covering us though I am wary because they might be taking videos of us while we’re having an activity outside the conference room. They came back 5 TIMES for some reason the word NO was a foreign concept

I may be bold in stating her name, yes, but my respect for her as a journalist or in that profession came down big time. I am a bit sad because they did not understand the meaning of NO. I wanted to ask though if they would allow us attending their own weddings, parties and affairs and take pictures of it even if they do not know us. Of course not! Then I think the same rule applies to us.

I guess we as individuals with no stellar status on our belts should not approve these people to step on us just to get a story. And they should draw the line. And our right to privacy should be respcted.

I would like to request you though: if you happen to watch correspondents and see us, do tell me immediately 🙂


Remember my article which I posted here .I’m happy to announce that I am one of the winners of that contest . The competition was tough and it’s not easy to win their contest. They have a different set of criteria. Which makes this victory even much more sweeter. I am also going to share the prize with my friend Ria. It was because of her that I found about this contest.

Thank you so much to the Judge, Jonel and Most Specially to Sago !!!
You made me a very,very happy girl

Meet and Greet with BB Gandanghari

Credits to Iris & Carl
BB Gandanghari (variants: BeBe Gandanghari, Bb Gandanghari) is the alter ego of the movie star formerly known as Rustom Padilla. Although Bb Gandahghari was publicly launched on 1 October 2008 when she made her debut as a Best Actor presentor at the Urian Awards, her public persona did not receive massive media attention until she returned to the Philippines on 15 January 2009 after a 3-month stint in the United States.
BB’s name is derived from her motto, “Be all that you can be.” It is also short for Binibining Gandanghari, a Tagalog phrase which literally translates into “maiden with the beauty of a king.”

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Beach Babe in the Making??

I always have this fantasy that I would be running in the beach and acting like a Baywatch lifeguard. Of course that’s just a fantasy because though I like the beach and think that I’m a beach person. I dream of swimming with the sharks and playing with dolphins.There’s a only one minor problem.I can’t swim and Titanic scared the crap out of me.Does that really affect me heck no? I like the feel of the sand on my feet and the smell of the salt sprays.I like the calm and tranquility that the sea gives me. The sound of the waves recharges me.The aura and the draw of the ocean relaxes me.

Since I couldn’t really go to the beach as much as I want to. I just surf the waves of the internet and I amuse myself with trivias about areas sorrounding the beach. One kind of beach that I have always been curious about is the Caramoan Group of Islands.

According to my research Caramoan is one of the thirty-five municipalities of the Province of Camarines Sur and is situated at the heart of the Caramoan Peninsula at the southernmost tip of Luzon. It occupies the lower eastern portion of the Province of Camarines Sur. It is bounded on the north by the town of Garchitorena and the Pacific Ocean; on the northeast by the island province of Catanduanes; on the south by Lagonoy Gulf; on the east by the Maqueda Channel and on the west by the municipality of Presentacion.

Sago is planning on a trip and I’m really thinking of going and joining him.I really hope I could save up and join that trip. Then I can finally live my dream and become a Beached Whale este Beach Babe.

Ladies Who Lunch (My Notes)

I was fortunate enough to get an invite for
Ladies Who Lunch (sponsored by Businessworld and  Herword. com)
The event was hosted by Issa Litton.Ms Cory Quirino
gave a talk on wellness. I learned so much from that talk.
She defines Wellness as a harmony of Body and Spirit.
She says that the very basic to wellness are the 5 D’s
1. Desire- Is the hearts involvement. Remember the song 
Listen to your heart??? Heart is where the wisdom comes from
2. Determination— it is from the mind. 
3. Drive — When your mind and heart unite Drive will be the offspring
4. Discipline–It is doing what needs to be done. 
5. Delight– this will be the fruits of your labor
Healthy Lifestyle
Prayer– meditation slows you down. When the heart slows down
its saves enough heartbeats to last a lifetime.Meditation detaches yourself from the rest of the world
Laugh and Love–is very importance. Never let anything get you down.
Exercise is the pill of your life. 
Accept Responsibilities- Never wait for anyone to defend you. You
are your own best attorney.
Exercise — is really very important.
Diet–Do what works for you.. eat raw food before cooked food.
Fruit is considered as a raw food.
Lifesaver of a Woman
Vitamin D
Remember this Mantra:
I have the choice
I have the power.
I am the best.


Last March 4 was my Mom’s birthday.
The office staff gave her flowers.
I had to have my photos taken with the flowers.
Happy Birthday Mama.. We may not always
get along like most mothers and daughters
I hope you know that I love you.Thank you
for trying your best. I hope I someday be
good enough to make you proud.

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